Dear BSM Scandinavia candidate,
I’ve had a rough two weeks agonizing over whom to include/exclude for the BSM Scandinavia. Because of so much interest, I’ve upped the numbers to 12 guys and 16 gals. Even after increasing the numbers, I still had to turn some down. But you are among those selected to go. Congratulations!
To confirm your participation in this BSM, please see Amber at the General Office, Level 5, LKCSB, sometime between February 18 and February 22. Bring with you a non-refundable deposit of $500 either in cash or in cheque (made payable to SMU). If you do not make payment by February 22, I’ll be giving your spot to an alternate candidate.
Know that costs for the trip at this point total $3200 – this amount includes airfare, hostel and hotel accommodation, and a good part of our transport costs (and even breakfast on several days!).
Regards,
Tom Estad
I am a student of Accounting. But the fact remains that I do not enjoy this field of study. This is the very reason why I choose my 2nd major of Corporate Communication. Corporate Communication is as far removed from Accounting as ever. It is also a field of study I thoroughly enjoy.
As if being forced to study Accountancy is not torture enough, someone brilliantly decided to have all the Accountancy classes at 8.30am in the morning. Each class also has a minimum 50% weightage exam together with disastrous project requirements. Most of the times the projects aren’t even useful and demand insane amounts of time and resources.
The professors too have sworn to be the most boring, monotonous, cynical, evil and vindictive of the lot. The students are no better. They are vicious with their excessive competitiveness and fire to excel regardless of whom they have to remove from their path of success. This deadly combination makes the faculty most unfriendly in general. It also brings about an atmosphere of hostility and Darwinian style fight of survival.
It’s quite obvious I do not have the most raving of views of my faculty peers. As expected of all my friends a bare minimum are from the Accountancy faculty.
It is then a pity that I am expected to sit through 3, 3 hours advanced accounting classes at 8.30am on each Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday. Most times I have no interest or initiative to follow the lesson. It is at these times that I wonder if I could use this time instead for something more worthy. Especially since I can survive the course without listening to a single word during the class and studying on my own.
It is then depressing to think I have 3 more accounting modules left before graduation. I sincerely wish I had not chosen Bachelor of Accountancy for my degree and gotten myself into this hell.
Date Watched: 21st March 2008
NTU-NUS-SMU is bringing for you the bi-annual Combined Uni Bollywood Bhangra Bash
Date Watched: 16th March 2008
Date Completed Reading: 28th February 2008
Date Watched: 2nd March 2008So another cousin has gotten tied in the bonds of holy matrimony. That brings the grand total of 5 cousins out of 10 enjoying the bliss of married life. Out of the 5 married cousins, 3 have kids. Kind of scary thinking that after the upcoming wedding there is only one more cousin left before I face the firing squad. That is following the order of us cousins. By age I still have 3 more cousins before I become the target of “when are you getting married beta?”.. It’s a scary thought. Marriage is a huge step and a start of a different life with a whole another person and a crazy load of responsibilities.
Then there is the whole matter of an arranged marriage. I have to agree that the concept of arrange marriage has evolved over the many years and can be fairly labelled as been modernised. However it still remains to stand that an arrange marriage constitutes saying “Yes” to someone you do not know and might not know entirely until after having taken the sacred ‘saath phere’ (the equivalent of the wedding vows). I find this difficult to comprehend though I personally have nothing against the practise. I’ll just add that I strongly believe this path is not for me. (Being a highly weird and complex with person who is next to impossible to understand. Look at previous posts to comprehend my complexity.)
Fortunately for me, my mother has given me the green signal to find the partner of my choice. However he has to be Indian, come from a good family, be well settled, he has to be smart (“no lallus” in my mother’s words) and love me a lot (I love this last criteria the most). Sounds good eh? But I have some queries concerning this.. See my mother and I have never had the “can-i-date, can-i-not” talk. So I don’t know if I can have a boyfriend or date. Though I think the whole concept of dating is another murky business I have yet to get down to definition.
Anyways, back to the topic. So what I wanna know is how do I go about finding/ choosing the guy for me? I mean assuming I can’t date/ have a boyfriend, how do I interact on a level at which I can discover whether or not that guy is for me. Also just how do you go about even knowing potential guys? I mean do you stand outside your university canteen with a board saying “looking for potential mate”? Logical answer to this is to socialise more, expand your social circle, get to know new people, be seen, heard and known. I’m all for this. Yet there is a part of me that is always wary of the stranger coming up and talking to me.
“what are his intensions?” “why is he talking to me?” “maybe he just got bored and saw me as a time pass.” “is he sincere?” “is he trustworthy?”
It is all part and parcel of being the good Indian brought up girl who doesn’t mingle with strangers and certainly doesn’t become friends or accept the invitation for coffee on the first meeting. So then where does it leave us (me and the other scores of girls in a similar situation)?
All in all everything attached to finding the guy of my dreams seems to be with its share of doubts, uncertainties and an excitement of sorts.. I guess I just have to wait and see.
Date Watched: 28th February 2008
